KimSIGHTS Archive 2024

Il n’y a qu’un bonheur dans la vie, c’est d’aimer et d’être aimé.

There is only one happiness in life, and that is to love and be loved.

George Sand

#148 The French Slim & Fit Formula Series – Part 1 of 7


Have you ever wondered why French women seem to effortlessly maintain a healthy weight and radiate that certain je ne sais quoi – that I-don’t-know-what?  Enter the world of Mireille Guiliano in the book entitled French Women Don’t Get Fat, a delightful peek into the French formula to maintaining seemingly effortless overall health and well-being.

This series will unpack the nuances of this intriguing lifestyle, exploring how adopting a dash of French wisdom might just be the ingredient missing in our American pursuit of health and happiness.  So, get ready to uncover the mysteries behind why French women seemingly have it all figured out when it comes to staying slim, fit, happy, and healthy – and enjoying life to the fullest! 

Meet Marie, a typical Parisian who embodies the essence of mindful indulgence in her approach to meals:

The Art of the French Formula:

A Tale of Living in the Moment

As the morning sunlight filters through her cozy kitchen, Marie plans her dinner menu with precision.  From the local market she selects fresh, seasonal ingredients, cherishing the quality and flavors each item promises.

Later in the day, armed with a basket brimming with produce and a heart full of anticipation, she embarks on the journey of meal preparation.  With deliberate grace, she slices, chops, and sautés, infusing her dishes with love and care.  Each step is a moment of mindful engagement, a celebration of the culinary arts.

As the aroma of her creations permeates the air, Marie sets the table meticulously, a ritual in itself.  Candles flicker, casting a warm glow upon the scene.  She pours a glass of exquisite wine, chosen with the same discernment she applied to her ingredients.

Sitting down to dine, Marie savors each bite with unhurried excitement.  She doesn’t just taste; she experiences the symphony of flavors dancing on her palate.  Her focus is undivided; the conversation with her dinner companion – or the solitude she revels in – is uninterrupted by distractions.  Every second is a celebration of the senses, an ode to the pleasures of the present moment.

A much-anticipated indulgence follows in the form of a petite, decadent dessert.  A single bite savored slowly, like a cherished memory, transports her to a world of sweetness.  Post-meal, she engages in a leisurely stroll along the River Seine, allowing digestion to begin amidst the serene beauty of the city.

In this vignette, Marie’s approach to her meal embodies the French approach to life – every aspect is a conscious act, a balance between enjoyment and moderation, a testament to the art of living in the moment.

French culture is a celebration of balance and pleasure, especially when it comes to food and health. While the French relationship with food includes portion control and focuses on quality over quantity, it’s not about deprivation or restriction, but rather about finding pleasure and fulfillment in every meal without sacrificing health.

The magic lies in their approach:  Cherish the joy of eating, savor fresh ingredients, and embrace meals as a moment to relish rather than rush.  Mealtime isn’t a mere refueling session; it’s an event.  They’ve mastered the art of tasting each bite anew, celebrating flavors, and valuing the company they share it with.

Next week, we continue our delightful exploration into the essence of the French lifestyle, where health and pleasure coalesce beautifully.  Join me as we demystify the secrets behind balancing indulgence and well-being, discovering how the French seamlessly merge pleasure and wellness in their lives.

À bientôt!See you soon!

Le cœur a ses raisons que la raison ne connaît pas.

The heart has its reasons, of which reason knows nothing.

 Blaise Pascal

Mangez bien, riez souvent, aimez beaucoup.

“Eat well, laugh often, love abundantly.”

French Idiom

#149 The French Slim & Fit Formula Series – Part 2 of 7


Welcome back to our exploration of the French lifestyle and their approach to health and well-being. Today, let’s dive into the mindful eating habits embraced by the French, as highlighted in the book French Women Don’t Get Fat by Mireille Guiliano.

The Role of Food in French Culture

One cannot talk about the French lifestyle without considering the essence of their culinary culture.  In France, food isn’t just a necessity; it’s a celebration, an art form, and a way of life.  

The French take pride in their locally sourced markets adorned with fresh produce, artisanal cheeses, aromatic herbs, and seasonal ingredients.  It’s not only about maximizing nourishment; it’s about embracing the vibrant flavors nature has to offer.

The French approach meals with a mindfulness that extends beyond the food on the plate.  They take their time, relishing the dining experience as an opportunity to savor every moment.  Engaging all the senses, appreciating culinary craftsmanship, and slowing down to truly taste and enjoy, they find pleasure in the art of eating.  By embracing a slower pace, the French attune themselves to their body’s signals of fullness, effortlessly recognizing when it’s time to stop eating.

Eating is more than a means of sustenance or staying slim; it is a celebration of life itself.  Their meals, an integral part of the day, embody traditional rituals like setting a beautifully arranged table, savoring each course, and engaging in the joys of conversation.  This celebration extends beyond eating; it reflects the French philosophy — a harmonious blend of indulgence, moderation, and the sheer delight of existence.

Balancing Indulgences and Health

In France, the concept of “cheat days” doesn’t quite exist.  Instead, they’ve mastered the art of moderation every day – a principle deeply ingrained in their approach to food and health.  Indulgence isn’t taboo; it’s embraced as an integral part of a balanced life.

But how do they do it?  It’s about savoring without excess, enjoying treats without guilt, and understanding that occasional indulgences can coexist with a healthy lifestyle.  Their secret lies in being conscious of what they consume, prioritizing quality over quantity, and finding joy in every bite without distractions.  It’s not about deprivation but rather making mindful choices and thoroughly enjoying the moment, ensuring the brain acknowledges the indulgence and feels satisfied.


The beauty is this approach isn’t tied to strict diets or inflexible rules; it’s centered around finding joy in a sustainable lifestyle.  The French have perfected the balance between savoring life’s delights, embracing meaningful experiences, and nurturing their physical and mental well-being.

The French have a captivating relationship with food – one that goes far beyond mere satisfaction.  For them, eating is an art, a practice in mindfulness, and a celebration of life’s simple pleasures.

Join me next week as we uncover how embracing an attitude of gratitude leads to guilt-free enjoyment while also contributing to a healthy and slender physique.

Vivre sans aimer n’est pas proprement vivre.

Living without loving isn’t properly living.


Toute chose appartient à qui sait en jouir.

Everything belongs to those who can appreciate it.

André Gide

#150 The French Slim & Fit Formula Series – Part 3 of 7

In our modern food landscape, where diets and guilt often go hand in hand, the French approach to eating as revealed in the book French Women Don’t Get Fat by Mireille Guiliano, brings forth a refreshing perspective — one steeped in appreciation and liberated from the shackles of guilt.

Eating Without Guilt

Imagine a dining experience where the meal on your plate isn’t just nourishment; it’s a celebration — a moment to relish flavors without an ounce of guilt.  For many Americans, guilt often becomes an unwelcome companion during meals, stemming from societal pressures, calorie counting, or even self-imposed restrictions.

This contrasts sharply with the French mentality.  In France, meals are about embracing the present moment, tasting flavors, and infusing gratitude into every bite.  Guilt doesn’t hold a place at their table; instead, they prioritize pleasure, thankfulness, and moderation in their relationship with food.

American culture tends to associate eating with moral values, categorizing food as “good” or “bad.”  A French woman, however, sees food through a different lens — one that’s free from moral judgments. Eating a piece of cake isn’t seen as an act of rebellion – or something she “shouldn’t have” – but rather a joyous indulgence in moderation.

The French mindset embraces being thankful for the entire culinary experience — from the abundance of fresh ingredients available, to a beautifully prepared and presented meal, to the festive dialogue shared around the table, savoring each bite with a profound sense of satisfaction and appreciation.  It’s about reveling in the artistry of cooking, enjoying a diverse range of culinary delights, and valuing every moment without attaching guilt to the experience.  They free themselves by embracing pleasure in moderation—a concept that often escapes many caught in the guilt-driven cycles of American dietary culture these days.


By adopting a mindset that values thankful eating, one can break free from the confines of guilt.  It’s about finding gratitude for the abundance on the plate and appreciating the pleasures of dining without imposing harsh judgments.

Embracing an attitude of gratitude isn’t just about the food; it’s a paradigm shift — a way to approach life with appreciation, joy, and a newfound freedom from the burden of guilt.  However, it’s important to note that eating without guilt doesn’t equate to overeating, emotional eating, or indulging out of boredom.  Instead, it’s a celebration of mindful indulgence — enjoying every bite with appreciation and moderation.  Let’s take a page from the French playbook, liberate our plates from guilt, and embrace a shame-free dining experience full of thanks that nourishes our body, mind, and spirit.

Join me next week as we delve into how the French strike a balance between relaxation and physical fitness.

De mauvais grain jamais bon pain.

From bad grain never good bread.

French Proverb

Petit à petit, l’oiseau fait son nid.

Little by little, the bird makes its nest.

French Proverb

#151 The French Slim & Fit Formula Series – Part 4 of 7


Today we continue our exploration into the French secret formula to health, relaxation, and exercise in their daily lives. 

The Art of Savoir Vivre – Knowing How to Live

Stress relief and relaxation are crucial elements of the French lifestyle.  Embracing a work-life balance, taking breaks to recharge throughout the day, allowing time for leisurely meals, connecting with nature, and practicing mindfulness daily are fundamental.  Their lifestyle prioritizes moments of joy and connection with loved ones as they embrace the philosophy of joie de vivre — the joy of living.

Incorporating Movement the French Way

When it comes to staying active, the French have a refreshing take on exercise that might just redefine your workout routine.

In France, staying fit isn’t synonymous with grueling gym sessions or extreme workouts.  Instead, it’s about incorporating movement seamlessly into everyday life.  Walking through cobbled streets, cycling along scenic paths, or simply embracing an active lifestyle, the French prioritize daily movement over structured workouts, integrating physical activity into their day-to-day.  This includes opting for the stairs, enjoying leisurely strolls, or engaging in activities they genuinely enjoy, be it dancing, swimming, or playing sports with friends.

Focus on Feeling Good

Their philosophy revolves around pleasure and sustainability.  They understand that forcing oneself into rigorous exercise regimens usually leads to burnout.  Instead, they find joy in activities that not only keep them active but also bring them happiness.

Rather than pursuing an ideal physique, the French prioritize feeling good and energized.  Their focus lies not in sculpting muscles, but in nurturing a healthy body and mind through activities that invigorate and uplift, with a slim, fit, happy, and healthy body naturally emerging as a byproduct.


The beauty of this approach to staying active is that their lifestyle emphasizes enjoyment, balance, and the sheer delight of moving in ways that feel natural and enjoyable, thus they continue to stick with it.  This focus on pleasure ensures they find activities they love, making it easier to maintain and continue with their routine.

The French celebrate movement as a joyful part of daily life.  Walking, cycling, and other outdoor activities are embraced not just as exercises but as enjoyable experiences that connect them with nature, community, and their bodies.  Even routine tasks like gardening are valued as moments of physical exertion and relaxation.  By finding joy in movement and prioritizing activities they genuinely enjoy, the French effortlessly maintain a positive relationship with exercise and overall well-being.

Tune in next week as we uncover the beauty of embracing imperfections as virtues. The French don’t chase an unattainable notion of perfection, making their lives more enjoyable and less stressful.

Qui court deux lièvres à la fois, n’en prend aucun.

He who runs after two hares at the same time, catches none.


Sois belle á ta façon.

Be beautiful in your own way.

Bryn Donovan

#152 The French Slim & Fit Formula Series – Part 5 of 7


Let’s continue with our look into the vibrant tapestry of French culture.  Here, imperfections aren’t seen as flaws to be hidden, but rather celebrated as integral parts of life’s beauty.  This unique perspective transcends mere appearances and deeply influences how the French approach self-acceptance in their everyday lives.

Authenticity is Celebrated

French culture challenges our societal norms that propagate unrealistic standards of perfection.  Instead, imperfections are considered natural and beautiful.  A Frenchwoman confidently sporting minimal makeup perfectly illustrates this celebration of natural beauty.

Perfection implies only one ideal exists.  However individuality is cherished within French society, where the value of being unique supersedes the pursuit of an unattainable standard of flawlessness.  Embracing one’s own unusual style is celebrated as an authentic expression of self.  For instance, a professional in France might proudly display her regional accent, embracing it as part of her identity rather than aiming for a neutral tone of voice.

The “less-is-more” philosophy permeates the French approach to both beauty and lifestyle alike.  This inclination towards minimalism extends into the daily choices they make, valuing experiences over material possessions, and aiming for simplicity as an embodiment of living authentically.

Acceptance Increases Resiliency

The French find strength in imperfections, cultivating resilience in the face of challenges.  Instead of viewing setbacks as failures, they perceive them as catalysts for innovation and adaptation, strengthening their resilience and adaptive capabilities.

This self-acceptance fosters self-assurance and self-confidence. A French student might boldly contribute ideas in classroom discussions, valuing the debate of ideas over the fear of making mistakes.  This cultural emphasis on being oneself over being perfect encourages individuals to embrace their unique qualities rather than feeling incapable of reaching some made-up unattainable ideal.


In essence, the French approach imperfections as a celebration of authenticity.  It’s about valuing uniqueness, finding strength in vulnerabilities, and fostering self-assurance.  Through this lens, imperfections cease to be perceived as flaws but rather as essential threads that enrich the fabric of life.

Join me next week as we examine the French approach to self-care – uncovering how they weave relaxation, stress management, and self-care routines into their daily activities.

Il ne faut pas attendre d’être parfait pour commencer quelque chose de bien.

Don’t wait to be perfect to start something good.

L’Abbé Pierre

Je pense, donc je suis.

I think, therefore I am.

René Descartes

#153 The French Slim & Fit Formula Series – Part 6 of 7


We continue our series about what we can learn from the French culture about how to better approach our health.

Beyond the culinary delights, mindfulness, and self-acceptance, the French possess a well-rounded approach to self-care that weaves relaxation, stress management, and nurturing routines into their everyday lives.

Self-Care Is Essential

In France, self-care isn’t considered a luxury; it’s a necessity – a way to cultivate a healthy body and mind.  The French prioritize moments of relaxation, whether it’s enjoying a leisurely stroll along the River Seine, indulging in a warm bath scented with lavender, or simply taking time to unwind with a good book.

Stress management is an art they’ve mastered.  Rather than succumbing to the frantic pace of life, the French emphasize the importance of slowing down.  Whether through regular breaks, mindfulness practices, or engaging in hobbies they love, they find solace in moments that restore balance and tranquility.

Self-care rituals are woven into their daily routines.  From skincare regimens that are more about cherishing the process than achieving perfection, to enjoying meals without distractions, they embrace rituals that nurture the body, mind and spirit.

The French understand that self-care isn’t just about external pampering – it’s about cultivating a mindset of well-being.  It’s about fostering a positive relationship with oneself, embracing imperfections, and finding beauty in the simplicity of life.


The French mindset beautifully integrates mindfulness beyond the dinner table — it permeates every facet of life.  Their approach to self-care seamlessly harmonizes with daily living, playing a vital role in maintaining their sense of balance and fulfillment.  It’s a poignant reminder that self-care isn’t merely a one-time indulgence; it’s a lifelong commitment that feels more like a treat than a chore.

Join me next week as we encapsulate the key takeaways from this journey and offer actionable steps to integrate the French wisdom of health and pleasure into our daily lives.

Qui n’avance pas, recule.

If you’re not moving forward, you’re moving backward.

Anthony Brandt

Il faut casser le noyau pour avoir l’amande.

You must break the kernel to get the almond.

French Idiom

#154 The French Slim & Fit Formula Series – Part 7 of 7


This week we finish up our series based on the book French Women Don’t Get Fat by Mireille Guiliano.

Throughout this journey into the heart of French culture and lifestyle, we’ve uncovered some secrets behind the art of health and pleasure practiced by the French.  Now, it’s time to bring these insights into our own lives.  Here’s a quick recap of what we covered in this series, along with additional insights from the book that I’ve included below this post.

1. Finding Balance:  The French approach to health emphasizes balance — whether it’s in regards to eating, movement, or self-care.  You can incorporate this balance by slowing down, savoring moments, and prioritizing enjoyment without excess.

2. Mindful Eating Habits:  The French perceive mealtime as an opportunity for pleasure.  You can get pleasure by mindfully shopping and preparing fresh ingredients, creating a pleasing dining atmosphere, conversing with your companions, taking your time to savor the flavors and textures of your food, and stopping eating before you feel uncomfortable.

3. Gratitude and Enjoyment: The French infuse appreciation into their meals and life moments.  You can too by appreciating the simple joys of life, relishing every experience, and prioritizing pleasure in moderation and without guilt.

4. Prioritizing Enjoyable Movement:  For the French, exercise isn’t considered a task but instead a source of pleasure that enhances both physical fitness and mental well-being.  You can find joy in movement by indulging in activities you love — be it a leisurely stroll, yoga, dance, or outdoor adventures like cycling or surfing.  Discover activities that resonate with your passions and uplift your spirits.

5. Embracing Imperfections:  The French practice self-acceptance by embracing their imperfections.  This mindset encourages self-confidence and contributes to a healthier mental state.  When you recognize that perfection isn’t the goal, you can celebrate your uniqueness, be authentic, and use the awareness of your weak spots as an incentive to build up your resiliency.

6. Self-Care Rituals:  Self-care rituals are used by the French to enhance their daily routines.  Their skincare routines focus on self-nurturing rather than mere grooming, and moments of tranquility might be capped off with a cup of herbal tea.  You can incorporate self-care rituals into your daily routine by embracing nurturing activities, indulging in leisurely breaks, and prioritizing moments of relaxation and rejuvenation.


The French integrate mindfulness into their everyday life through mealtimes, pleasurable movement, relaxation, and embracing challenges as opportunities to grow in wisdom and resiliency.

Embracing the French wisdom regarding health and pleasure isn’t about adopting a rigid set of rules.  It’s about incorporating elements that resonate with your lifestyle.  You can find your balance, prioritize joy, and cultivate a life that cherishes both health and pleasure that suits you.

Thank you for joining me on this delightful exploration into the French art of living well.  Remember, the true essence lies in finding your own unique balance and enjoying life’s journey of self-discovery.

Remember to check out the handout following below, and…

N’oublie pas de vivre.

Don’t forget to live.

French Idiom

HANDOUT: The French Slim & Fit Formula

Bonjour!  Are you ready to sprinkle a bit of French magic into your life?  

Here’s a collection of habits inspired by Mireille Guiliano’s book, French Women Don’t Get Fat.   Select a couple to begin integrating into your day, and watch how you can significantly enhance your health and happiness, tout comme les Français – just like the French!

  1. Fresh, Quality Food: Choose fresh, seasonal ingredients for your meals from local markets.
  2. Conscious Shopping: Make mindful choices while shopping; avoid impulse buying.
  3. Mindful Meals: Enjoy your meals leisurely, chew and savoring every bite, aiding digestion.
  4. Turn off distractions: Focus on the flavors and the companionship.
  5. Moderation is Key: Enjoy all foods in moderation without deprivation.
  6. Culinary Exploration: Explore various cuisines for diverse flavors and cultural experiences.
  7. Cooking Experimentation: Explore new recipes to keep meals exciting and fresh.
  8. Appreciate Food: Respect the food you eat and the effort that goes into making it.
  9. Family Involvement: Involve family or friends in meal preparations for bonding.
  10. Moderation Dining Out: Practice moderation even when dining at restaurants.
  11. Balanced Treats: Indulge in small portions of desserts or healthier options.
  12. Portion Control: Listen to your body; stop eating when you feel satisfied not stuffed.
  13. Social Balance: Enjoy social events without overeating or excessive drinking.
  14. Meal Rituals: Set a beautiful table, light a candle, and make meals an enjoyable experience.
  15. Food Presentation: Take time to plate your meals attractively for visual appeal.
  16. Mealtime Ambiance: Play soothing music during meals for a relaxing atmosphere.
  17. Dining Etiquette: Pay attention to table manners, fostering a pleasant dining experience.
  18. Balance, Not Dieting: It’s not about strict diets but finding balance in what you eat.
  19. Embrace Pleasure: Allow yourself to enjoy food without feeling guilty.
  20. Evening Walks: After dinner, take a stroll to aid digestion and relax the mind.
  21. Evening Rituals: Wind down in the evening with herbal teas or calming activities.
  22. Body Respect: Embrace your body and nourish it with balanced, wholesome meals.
  23. Move Daily: Find ways to incorporate joyful movement into your daily routine.
  24. Balanced Work-Life: Maintain a balance between work and personal life for a happier you.
  25. Take Breaks: Step away from work to relax and recharge.
  26. Lunchtime Rituals: Have a relaxed lunch away from your work desk.
  27. Appreciate Nature: Spend time outdoors, appreciating the beauty around you.
  28. Social Connections: Connect with loved ones regularly for emotional well-being.
  29. Celebrate Life’s Pleasures: Find joy in small things and celebrate life every day.
  30. Joy in Daily Tasks: Find happiness in everyday chores and activities.
  31. Self-Care: Take time for yourself; it’s crucial for your mental health.
  32. Stay Hydrated: Drink plenty of water throughout the day for good health.
  33. Stress Relief: Find relaxation through deep breathing, short breaks, movement, etc.
  34. Mindful Conversations: Engage in meaningful conversations without distractions.
  35. Gratitude: Be thankful for your meals and the moments you share.

By embracing a fresh perspective on eating, movement, and life, you can infuse a sense of joy, balance, and mindfulness into your daily routine. Keep in mind, it’s not about adhering to strict rules or diets; it’s about accumulating small moments of happiness and embracing a well-rounded lifestyle.  

How can you add a touch of The French Slim & Fit Formula into your life?